Call Him Out On His Cheating
Now that you know your partner is cheating, you have the ultimate trump card in your hand. This means that you can use it at any time to call him out on his cheating. How you do it depends on how you want to leverage this knowledge. If you want to hurt him as much as he has hurt you, then perhaps you will try to embarrass him at an opportune moment. Another option is to just come straight out and tell him that you know. Regardless of how you want to do it, it is something that will happen sooner or later. Discovering that your partner is cheating is not something that can be kept bottled up for very long.
Now that you know he has cheated, and you want to know what to do next, check out this article on how to break up with a cheater.
What to do with a known-cheater
It is hard to say what is the best way to treat a known-cheater. They have been caught in the act, and now it is up to you to know how to handle it. No matter what happens, you will want to let them know that you know, and that they will be punished in some way or another for betraying you. Some will take cheating as cause to break up, while others will want to get revenge in some form. How it is dealt with is up to the person with the knowledge, but whatever you do, don’t hold it in and act like nothing happened. That just isn’t fair.
Confronting cheaters: Show them the facts
If you are going to confront a cheater, it is a good idea to have the evidence in hand. Confronting cheaters isn’t easy, and there is a good chance that they will deny it no matter what you say. They have been proven to be liars, so you need to have the proof that you know the truth. If you don’t have the evidence, it will be your word against their word, and the confrontation will just dissolve into an argument. If you come well equipped with the right evidence, there is no way they can wriggle out of admitting what they have done.
Tell them how you found out they cheated
If you really want to drive home the point, it is powerful to explain to the cheater exactly how you found out that they were cheating. This will help you tell the story of what happened and what comes next. It will also help you reaffirm your evidence and force them to admit their wrongdoings. It’s not so easy to confront a cheater, so the more resources you have available, the easier it will be to do it. Tell them exactly how you know that they cheated will also help explain how they hurt you and how you felt during the experience.
Affairs: Why won’t he come clean?
There is something about getting caught during affairs that makes it difficult to admit the truth. Guys that are caught cheating will do their best to deny everything. It started with a lie, and it will continue with a lie until they are backed into a corner. Guys that get caught cheating think that they will be able to lie their way back into your heart, but the simple fact is that you will be the one who makes the choice if you will take them back or not.
Even though an affair can be devastating, sometimes we want to learn how to forgive. Check out this article on how to forgive a cheater.